We Need Your Ice-Cream Money
Updated: Dec 8, 2019
Platinum Friends was set up as a savings club to help our members meet those weekly or monthly gaps in their wallet. We understood that being paid on a rota isn’t enough. And with our backgrounds, helping others is always a given. In doing so we draw on skills gained from working across almost many different sectors; just for starters: social security, housing, employment, education, immigration, counselling, social work, and general empathy.
We do what we can to add calm to those children’s lives. We listen. We reassure.
As we begin the festive season, we’re asking friends and followers to support us in our work. But we’re not asking because it’s Christmas. It’s because we see an escalation we fear will be worsened by political and business uncertainty as we enter 2020. And we’re seeing this as a small group, set up five minutes ago, with no physical office of our own, funded only by our own tiny pockets.
Listening and reassuring people in such harrowing circumstances takes time and energy. Offering comfort to someone while living through their experiences leaves its own mental impact.
But here’s where we differ from the bigger, funded office based non-profits. We don't expect to see the end of our favourite TV shows, or hear the traffic or weather news. We do a lot of ringing around to liaise, refer, and getting networking services in gear. Or if there's no one else, to advocate. In the last six weeks alone, we’ve taken various calls asking for support from people who can't wait on office hours. We've cut off incoming calls from family and friends.
These calls can come in at weekends; at midnight; in the early hours of the morning; in the evening. From people who are too proud to say they need help until they’re grasping at the last straw (that's us) and fear has overcome stigma. Here’s a sample of what we deal with:
A bereaved mother with no food in the cupboard – part of the working poor – seeking someone to talk to about her son’s murder.
A victim of child abuse, recounting the impact on her entire family, with all the depraved, horrendous details of the abuse coming out.
A Sunday morning call about a Monday morning eviction, from a spouse with the right to work, but with no right to housing benefit after her EU citizen husband failed the habitual residence test.
Requests for help to complete the labyrinthine Windrush Compensation Scheme application.
One murder. One suicide.
Two cancer patients.
Unexpected maternal bereavement.
Terror of attending a disability benefit assessment that was so severe, it was leading to panic attacks and loss of bowel control.
Listening and reassuring people in such harrowing circumstances takes time and energy. And yes, it is draining. Offering comfort to someone while living through their experiences leaves its own mental impact.
In many cases these experiences are visited on their families. On children, who like sponges absorb grief, pain, fear, joy, whichever emotion is being thrown out when a parent is venting their own trauma. So we do what we can to add calm to those children’s lives. We listen to the adults. We reassure.
But we’d like to do more.
Any amount helps. Even a penny knows what it's worth to 99p.
Our support is open to families and individuals, young or old. We want to be able to offer:
Help with emergency bills.
The cost of one night’s safe shelter.
Respite for carers.
Protection from discrimination in applying for places to rent.
Help with health issues and funeral costs.
Money for medicines or special treatment.
We are sharing what’s in our cupboards and what change we can spare from our own pockets.
“You’ve really lifted my spirits – thank you so much.”
People say we lift their spirits – but we know that with support from our community, we can do so much more, . A small step in mindset; a willingness to give without expecting anything in return will actually bring greater returns for all of us. Strength, financial unity, respect. It all comes back to you, in one way or another.
What we’re asking
We’re asking for a weekly donation of £1.00. That’s it.
Or to round it up, £5.00 a month. But it's optional. Anything helps. Even a penny knows what it's worth to 99p. Please help us continue to carry out all the things we’ve mentioned above, and more. Our fund needs to grow so that we can help those in our community who are in dire need – some of whom are elderly and isolated.
If you think this is nothing to do with you, remember every day we grow older – not younger. Tomorrow is promised to no one. A pebble on the pavement, a sudden trip on the stairs, falling. Landing the wrong way – all these potential disasters can lurk in our fate. If you can help us with even the smallest amount, just a portion of your ice-cream money, please click the donate button at the top of the page and give what you can.